In this rapidly changing world, parenting styles are changing too. Right from encouraging our children to complete their homework, to be on their best behavior at all times, parents put too much pressure on their children. At the same time, many parents try to have a more holistic approach for their children. Parents usually have the right intentions but wrong methods to influence their children. They might want their children to be the best in every field, encourage them to take up multiple activities, but what they don’t do is, think from a child’s perspective. Too much pressure on a child, since the very beginning, might have some ill effects again.
As people as evolving, the dynamics in different relationships have changed too. In some privileged circles, parenting has become a mere sport. Where children are not the ones competing, but the parents are.
How can one be a good parent?
There is no particular definition of “good parenting.” Parenting is subject to fads and changes with time and different families. According to various known psychologists, good parenting focuses on –
- Overall health and safety of their child (both mental and physical).
- promoting their emotional well-being.
- building their social skills.
- preparing the child intellectually.
Studies show that different kinds of children need different parenting, but their overall growth is a combination of warmth, love, and sensitivity in the early ages. “Good parenting” helps children thrive. It fosters love, empathy, kindness, and cooperation. Good parenting promotes good emotions and prevents their children from anxiety, depression, and other social disorders.
A parent’s relationship with their child is reflected will be reflected in their child’s actions sooner or later. Parenting has a significant impact on one’s life. It reflects how they were treated and the values they were taught as children. If you have a good relationship with your child as a parent, they will automatically trust you more and be open to you. Whereas, if you don’t, children start lying to their parents in the early stages, which only worsens.
Here are some ways you can improve your parenting styles –
- It is better to guide and support a child than to push and demand.
- Punishments should be your last resort.
- Let your kids be independent. Letting them be them for a while teaches them how the real world works.
- Let them make mistakes and then learn from them.
- How you are as a person also can change their approach. Children tend to do what their parents do. So, being the right person is more important than being a good parent.
- It is only natural to lose your temper at times. But never be mean or spiteful to your children or humiliate them. It lowers down their self-confidence.
- It is essential to show your kids how much you love them in every way possible.
- It is natural for parents to make mistakes at times. The most crucial part is acceptance. Acknowledge and apologize when you make a mistake as their kids learn the same.
- Different parents adopt different methods of discipline their children. As much as it is essential to discipline them, the way you do it also matters. Remember, punishment is not the only answer.
- While it is great to encourage your children to reach great heights, it is also essential to understand what they are going through.
- Teach your kids to be good people. How you are as a person matters more than anything. If you forget to teach them how to be happy and content, they will never be satisfied with the things they have.
- Connect with your child. Apart from being a good parent, you also have to remember to be a good friend. Spend time with them and laugh together.
What may seem like the traits of a good parent to one might not fit for everyone else. There are no fixed rules on how to be a good parent. It depends on your child, you, and the situation. The most important thing as a parent you can do is, be there for them.
How does parenting affect your child?
A child’s behavior as a grown reflects on how he was raised. Some children are presented in the toughest of conditions but grow up to have a remarkable personality. At the same time, some turn out to be not so good. Similarly, children who live with their parents and children who don’t can grow up to be different people. Despite all challenges and the environment, parenting styles affect the children in ways you can’t imagine.
What are the different kinds of parenting styles?
According to many professionals, your parenting styles can be classified into four significant ways. Here’s what they are and how they affect your child.
- Authoritarian parenting – When a child is expected to follow strict rules and is kept in a harsh and rigid environment. Sometimes parents have higher demands from their children, and to get them done, they make strict rules and give every little direction.
This kind of style generally leads your children to be obedient and disciplined but not content and happy.
- Authoritative parenting – such parents are generally open and willing to listen to what their child needs. They are more forgiving and nurturing in all situations.
This parenting style can lead a child to be successful, happy, and capable as they are brought up in a more understanding environment.
- Permissive parenting – when the parents rarely make any demands and have very few expectations. They are non-traditional and lenient.
Such parenting often results in unhappy children and most likely to face problems in the real world.
- Uninvolved parenting – when the parents are innocent and neglected and do not care what their children do. They often reject their child’s needs and can be a little selfish.
Such parenting leads a child to be unhappy, lacking self-esteem and confidence.
Parenting styles are often associated with different child outcomes. Therefore, as a parent, you have to be very careful of what your child needs. Remember, there is no thumb rule of being a good parent; every situation has a different solution.